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Why Dating Sucks

For the past six weeks I've been driving myself crazy wondering wondering what I was so afriad of. The biggest problem I've had at the end of the day with the DB breakup is that it should have come from me. I was so DUMB to let him live in my house months after any feelings of romance had left. But alas, I was one of those idoit girls who believes that having a not great boyfriend was better than none at all and I've been trying to figure out where I could have possibly gotten such a terrible idea. And then today I was reminded : because dating SUCKS!


A good quote someone gave me was "Instead of looking for Mr. Right, do  the things you love and he will be right there waiting for you". Well, I like going to wine club, junior league functions, and now drag shows ( BEST NIGHT EVER, will blog about it soon, promise) and while there are men at the thrid, I'm just not their type And thus I am admiting to you all that I have an online dating profile. Yes, welcome to 2012.

So, I go out with this guy. He's nice, he's funny, cute, walks to me to my car, good kisser, has a good job. You know, all the basic requirements. We have a GREAT time, so we go on date two. On date two this great guy revels he has a little habit that is a. illegal b. not something I'm intrested in. So much for that. This is an extreme version of my problem with online dating: you just don't know what's out there and there's probably a reason why my path has not crossed with these guys. Let's examine the single girls dating pool options:

1. bars
2. work
3. through friends
4. online
5. setting a fire, speeding and creating other sorts of crazy situations in which one can interact with men in uniforms and hope they might be available.

So, clearly 5 is off the table, for now at least, all bets are off once I hit 30. My department is mostly women and something just feels very wrong about trolling the office in other departments looking for available men so we're going to eliminate 2 as well. I've done the through friends thing and it honestly took me a long time to feel comfortable being friends again after it didn't work out and I felt said friend took "his side" and not mine. So, we have online and bars  . . . both of those are just working out so well for me. FML.

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