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Over It

One of the nice things about getting older is, as Rhett Butler says , frankly not giving a damn. At 29 here are some of the things I'm over:

1. Refusing to wear a swimsuit in public. Heck, I've even tags photos on Facebook in swim wear. No one around me is blind and I don't think my size in a swimsuit is shocking to anyone. It's too hot to hide in clothes being a party pooper

2. My clothing size in general. Not that I don't want to be a smaller size but I'm done believing I can only buy clothes of one size. If something has a different cut than I'm used to or runs small, ill size up rather than refuse to wear it. I also don't believe in denying my size and wearing a dress so tight it pops open, yes I've seen it, and when 4 women are wearing the same dress and only one gets busted its not a cheap zipper, it's being too ridiculous to get the proper size.

3. The need to participate in every social opportunity offered to me. I like my friends, but I also like not rushing from event to event or spending a fortune eating out. Case in point, a friend has invited a group of us to eat out this weekend. I'll see this same group at a gathering Saturday night . Would it be fun to see them twice, sure, but I just assume have good conversation Saturday and save the $40 for another time

4. People who give lame ass excuses . We all know that person, someone who is too busy or are short on cash but then check in on FB to a slew of activities costing time and money. I accept the fact that people prioritize the things important to them and my invitation didn't make the cut and it probably had nothing to do with time or money. It's ok, I promise so stop the lame lies and just say oh, that is so sweet of you but I cannot make it.

5. On the flip side, I'm done over committing to things. I'm not hopping to multiple events in one night and taking on a commitment for every night of the week. For example, a good friend is getting married soon. I'm excited for this event and have already RSVPed indicating such. But now another couple is celebrating their marriage the same night and I hate to miss but I'm not going. I'm not dining and dashing at one just to make it to another only to not have fun at either. I'll send a card and gift with my sincere regrets to event 2 and be sure to buy the couple a rounds of drinks to toast their happiness the next time I see them.

6. Hiding my opinions to appease others, ok fine, I've been over that for a while but you might have noticed an increase in opinionated posts. I know I say things that offend my catholic friends, my republican friends, certainly my democrat friends, probably sometimes my family and I'm sure feminists friends. But that's the cool think about growing up to become your own unique person is having a unique set of ideas. If other people having different opinions offends you than that's your problem, not theirs.

7. The ideas of a fairy tale wedding. As much as I think "my friends are married" is hilarious I love friends weddings, I especially love the unique expression of each couple and hopefully knowing I'm attending an event that will not take years to pay off. Is my friend married, does she look happy and gorgeous, did I get to have cake? Three yeses and I had a good time, period.

8. Awards and accolades. While their nice these things are at the end of the day pieces of glass, and maybe a resume billet point. They do not make one smarter, prettier, richer or happier. I'd rather be happy with my own actions then doing things that will bring the recognition of others. Sometimes this attitude brings these things much easier than pursing them anyway. Case in point: I was surprised and honored to receive a mentoring award recently but such an award wouldn't even make my list of reasons why I mentor.

9. Large quantities of alcohol. I literally could not tell you the last time I was drunk. I certainly get plenty of wine club buzzes these days but really nothing more. I can have fun being with people I like and have fun sober anytime.

10. Going "out".. i don't Pre party, I don't post party. I go to an event and go home. Ain't nobody got time for all that other stuff.
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